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Is Your Cellphone Ruining your Relationship and Your Life?

Welmoet Bok — Sun, 12 May 2013 10:12:42 +0000

Posted in Maintaining Healthy Relationships,Psychology in practice

Or more accurately: Are you allowing your cellphone usage to seriously detract from your quality of life? Consider the following scenarios: A couple are sitting in a dimly lit, cosy restaurant. Everything is perfect and the stage is set for a wonderful, intimate night out. However, both partners are texting furiously in [...]

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Relationships: The Mother-in-Law – You May Play a Pivotal Role in your Child’s Marriage!

Welmoet Bok — Sat, 13 Apr 2013 07:53:08 +0000

Posted in Maintaining Healthy Relationships,Relationship Building

How to succeed at being a good mother-in-law (by really trying!) Mothers'-in-law tend to have a bad reputation (similar to that of landladies)! Are mothers'-in-law really so problematic?! I know that I personally had a less than ideal relationship with my own mother-in-law (to put it mildly) and in my individual and couple [...]

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Couples and Relationship Counselling: For Love or Money…

Welmoet Bok — Mon, 01 Apr 2013 10:55:01 +0000

Posted in Life in General,Maintaining Healthy Relationships,Relationship Building

What role does money play in your relationship? Where do you and your partner stand when it comes to money issues? In order to help you to answer these questions, consider the following questions: Do you and your partner: 1. See eye-to-eye on financial matters most of the time? 2. Keep details of [...]

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Relationship Myth no. 2: Secrets Maintain a Good Relationship

Welmoet Bok — Sun, 10 Mar 2013 09:56:15 +0000

Posted in Maintaining Healthy Relationships,Psychology in practice

Do you need to keep secrets from your partner to hold on to your individuality? 10 March 2013 11:11 AM I would go as far as to say that communication is the life blood of any health relationship. There are exceptions of course, but then aren't there exceptions to most things?! So what do [...]

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Couples: Beware of making a Big Mistake in your Relationship!

Welmoet Bok — Wed, 16 Jan 2013 09:30:51 +0000

Posted in Life in General,Maintaining Healthy Relationships,Relationship Building

Couples: Can your relationship survive a major breach of trust? In my cinical psychology and mediation practice I see many couples who present for counselling because their relationship is reeling under the impact of a perceived betrayal, such as infidelity or a failure on the part of one of the partners to 'be there' [...]

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Couples: Is your relationship in good health?

Welmoet Bok — Tue, 20 Nov 2012 11:31:21 +0000

Posted in Life in General,Maintaining Healthy Relationships

If not, what do you need to do in order to get it back on track? How do you go about evaluating your relationship? In my psychology practice, I am told my clients that they "just know" when their intimate relationship is working well. When I ask them how they come to this conclusion, they [...]

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Couples: How does your relationship rate on intimacy?

Welmoet Bok — Sun, 04 Nov 2012 16:29:48 +0000

Posted in Life in General,Maintaining Healthy Relationships

Intimacy is the cornerstone of any significant relationship. When we are in love and our relationships are new, intimacy is usually at an all-time high. Couples in love tend to spend hours talking to each other about all aspects of their lives, communication seems effortless and relationships, as a result, feel deeply satisfying. Unfortunately, though, [...]

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When Anger Management meets Couple Counselling: Are anger and conflict ruining your relationship?

Welmoet Bok — Sun, 21 Oct 2012 11:19:46 +0000

Posted in Life in General

And if so, where, or with whom, does the problem lie? Do either of you need individual therapy or should you both go for couples counselling? In my psychotherapy practice, from time to time, I get enquiries from prospective clients about whether or not a particular problem should be dealt with in individual or in [...]

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Couples and Relationships: How do you make the decision to commit (to your partner)?

Welmoet Bok — Sun, 16 Sep 2012 08:01:38 +0000

Posted in Life in General,Relationship Building

Relationship commitment – how does the process work? Over the last few weeks I have had a number of couples coming to my psychology practice for relationship counselling, stating that their problems centre around relationship commitment, where one or both partners are ambivalent or confused about where they want their relationship to go (if anywhere!). [...]

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In children, teenagers, adults and couples: why is validation of the self so important in our lives?

Welmoet Bok — Sun, 19 Aug 2012 11:04:02 +0000

Posted in Life in General,Psychology in practice,Relationship Building

What do we mean by validation and why is it so important? Last week I attended a training workshop on the topic of self-injury. It was stated that in many cases of self-injury there is a history of some form of abuse. However, another factor which is seriously damaging to the (developing) psyche is invalidation [...]

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