Most people look forward to this time of year, because it offers the opportunity to take some time off from work, to see friends and family, to relax and generally to have a good time.
However, in my experience as a psychologist, I find that many people experience this time as year as extremely stressful. It is also well-known that the incidence of depression peaks during this period. So how can you prevent yourself from getting stressed-out, anxious and/or depressed over Christmas?
1. Have realistic expectations.
Don’t expect that everything will be perfect! For example, think back on previous festive seasons and your experiences with the people who are going to be present at the festivities. It is highly likely that the past will repeat itself! (This is not meant to sound pessimistic – psychologists are great believers in peoples’ ability to change, however, change is difficult and motivation is essential).
2. Closely monitor your self-talk.
Try to maintain a constructive conversation with yourself and try not to catastrophise the situation when things don’t go according to plan. For example, if the Christmas cake flops try not to say to yourself “This is a disaster!”. Remember – this is not a tsunami we are talking about!
3. Allow yourself regular daily personal time.
At this time of year it is often difficult to find time to recharge one’s batteries. If you plan to survive the festive season intact, make sure that you find at least an hour a day to be alone – to either listen to music, do a relaxation exercise, meditate or go for a walk.
4. Maintain a healthy routine.
Remember that your body and your mind are closely connected – in order to “keep it all together” at this time of year you need to make sure you eat healthily, that you only drink alcohol in moderation, exercise and relax regularly.
If you have any other suggestions, please let me know!