I am excited to let my existing and prospective clients know that I have extended my practice to include rooms at Harbour Bay Medical Suites in Glencairn from the 12th September 2019.
For enquiries please contact me, Welmoet Bok, via e-mail at welmoet@mweb.co.za or 0824078870.
When your life gets busy, you may find that you and your partner start drifting apart. Couples Counselling is a great way to repair your relationship and get back to a point where both of you are happy. Here are a few benefits of using couples counselling to repair your relationship:
Clarify your feelings
Couples counselling will allow you and your partner to figure out where you would like your relationship to go. Speaking to a professional and giving yourself and your partner a specific time and space to speak to each other about your feelings can help you decide whether or not the relationship should continue.
Resolve past problems
Sometimes it is beneficial to speak about your problems with a professional third party involved. Often, you will find that you and your partner may argue about something and then suppress the emotions once the fight is ‘over’, but all you’re doing is holding in your true feelings in order to stop the argument. These unresolved emotions settle into your unconscious like an ‘unexploded bomb’. Going to couples counselling will allow you to speak in a controlled environment with a patient professional at hand. They can help you and your partner positively resolve past problems before that ‘unexploded bomb’ goes off.
Most of us get told from an early age that to succeed at anything important in life you need to work at it!
However, there are a number of aspects of life where trying really hard is actually counterproductive – think of the quest for happiness, being more spontaneous or more laid-back as cases in point! For some women, attempting to fall pregnant falls into this category too!
Insomnia also falls into this category. Clients in my psychology practice who are plagued by insomnia usually report that they “battle” to fall asleep and when they wake up in the night there main focus is to try to fall asleep again. Usually their insomnia is linked to an “overactive mind” which goes round and round in endless ruminations about all current worries and problems facing the individual. Usually I get told by most insomnia-prone clients that they feel unable to “turn-off” this habit.
How do I help clients with insomnia problems?
First I tell people about the paradoxical nature of insomnia – Of course it is important to practice the basin tenets of good sleep hygiene such as having a regular bed-time routine, not drinking any beverages containing stimulants such as caffeine for a few hours before bedtime and arranging to sleep in a dark, well-ventilated room on a good mattress but then to also “go with the flow” as far as sleep is concerned – to learn to practice good relaxation techniques and guided visualisation so that they are able to move your thoughts towards the enjoyment of being comfortable in a favourite place such as, for example, a beach or somewhere associated with a pleasant childhood memory. Cognitive-behavioural therapy skills are also very helpful.
If this rings true for you I suggest that you resolve to declare your bed a “no-worry zone” – as soon as you take your feet off the floor to get into your bed you decide to shelve all your fears and problems to being considered anew the next morning.
This is something that you CAN improve at with practice!